Ugh...Dead beat dads

So the more and more I have to deal with the child support office the more and more frustrated I get and angrier I get with her father. I mean really. The fact that I have to go this route is unbelievable, I mean why can't he just man up and pay some child support. The agreement we could come up with may even be less than what the courts will decide (which I heard was going to be between 600 and 1500 bucks) Look he doesn't do anything else for our daughter, he barely calls her and when he does he speaks to her for like 2 minutes (I'm really not exaggerating I have proof!) also when he does call all he does is make her feel guilty because she doesn't want to go and see him. Do you know he didn't even get her a birthday present or card for her birthday. Our daughter is 11 now and his gift to her was a plane ticket to go and see him?? Doesn't he get it, she didn't want that, she wants a toy or clothes or something not a plane ticket to see her father that she barely knows. Besides he's going to be working, she'd stay with her step-mother who she doesn't even know, I dont think so. I mean I wouldn't let me child go to a strangers house so why would I let her travel 3k miles to visit a stranger? Of course I let this decision be up to her, but she has been insistent in not going. He has vacation coming up in June, if it's so important for him to see her than why isn't he coming down to Cali to see her? Why not use that money for a plane ticket for himself to come and see her. This whole thing is getting ridiculous. Why doesn't he understand that this is not about me or him but about Alyssa's well being. Why can't he just do what's right for her.

A Rave to Me!

Being a single mom is one of the most selfless jobs in the world, especially when you are a full-time single parent. But one of the best things about being a single mom is you are the only one who truly gets to enjoy seeing your daughter grow up to be so beautiful and so full of love. I look at my daughter and all that she has become, and realize that even though she is her own person, a big part of what she has become is due to me and and I'm so proud of her! My daughter has had to overcome many obstacles at such a young age, from moving from CA to CT, from CT to CA, from CA to CT and finally back to CA, she has been to a total of 6 schools in her 10 years of life, and now has a dad that barely speaks to hear with excuses of being overworked, but despite all these obstacles she has still managed to be such a wonderful, beautiful, loving and smart child. Sometimes I'm so busy and so hard on myself that I dont stop to see what a good job I've done! So today I'm giving myself a Rave and a Rave to all the selfless mothers out there who are trying to raise smart, loving, beautiful girls or boys. As for my daughter, well she gets a Rave from me everyday, she is my world, my love, MY little Bug.

Child Support-The System

So I filed for child support (after 2 years-now 3 years- of receiving NO support) in April of last year. I met with an attorney, filed the paperwork, etc. etc.. It's now February and I still have no support. Since my daughter's father is another state it takes longer. I've called every month to get an update and well like everything else, paperwork gets stuck in the system. It took them 3 months to send the paperwork to PA (where he lives). Three months because someone kept forgetting to do it. I'm happy to report that they finally have sent the paperwork to the PA child support enforcement office. Now how long will it take for the PA office to respond, that's a good question. I have high hopes for the PA system, since they are one of the first states to enforce strict penalties for those who do not support their children, they have been doing it since 1950? they not only garnish wages they take away driver's license, professional licenses and will eventually put you in jail if a parent does not pay or abide by the courts orders. A system like this needs to be in a place for every state, and states really need to talk to each other. It's not fair for single parents to take all the financial responsibility of raising a child and it's not fair that it takes so long for states to help that single parent get the support they deserve. Deadbeat Dads & Moms out there need to step up to the plate and be responsible.